reasons why you should buy the sims 4
I think one thing you can do to help your friends who are depressed is to reach out to them not in the spirit of helping, but in the spirit of liking them and wanting their company. “I’m here to help if you ever need me” is good to know, but hard to act on, especially when you’re in a dark place. Specific, ongoing, pleasure-based invitations are much easier to absorb. “I’m here. Let’s go to the movies. Or stay in and order takeout and watch some dumb TV.” “I’m having a party, it would be really great if you could come for a little while.” Ask them for help with things you know they are good at and like doing, so there is reciprocity and a way for them to contribute. “Will you come over Sunday and help me clear my closet of unfashionable and unflattering items? I trust your eye.” “Will you read this story I wrote and help me fix the dialogue?” “Want to make dinner together? You chop, I’ll assemble.” “I am going glasses shopping and I need another set of eyes.” Remind yourself why you like this person, and in the process, remind them that they are likable and worth your time and interest.
Talk to the parts of the person that aren’t being eaten by the depression. Make it as easy as possible to make and keep plans, if you have the emotional resources to be the initiator and to meet your friends a little more than halfway. If the person turns down a bunch of invitations in a row because (presumably) they don’t have the energy to be social, respect their autonomy by giving it a month or two and then try again. Keep the invitations simple; “Any chance we could have breakfast Saturday?” > “ARE YOU AVOIDING ME BECAUSE YOU’RE DEPRESSED OR BECAUSE YOU HATE ME I AM ONLY TRYING TO HELP YOU.” “I miss you and I want to see you” > “I’m worried about you.” A depressed person is going to have a shame spiral about how their shame is making them avoid you and how that’s giving them more shame, which is making them avoid you no matter what you do. No need for you to call attention to it. Just keep asking. “I want to see you” “Let’s do this thing.” “If you are feeling low, I understand, and I don’t want to impose on you, but I miss your face. Please come have coffee with me.” “Apology accepted. ApologIES accepted. So. Gelato and Outlander?”
#613: How do I reach out to my friends who have depression? | Captain Awkward
P.S. A lot of people with depression and other mental illnesses have trouble making decisions or choosing from a bunch of different options. “Wanna get dinner at that pizza place on Tuesday night?” is a LOT easier to answer than “So wanna hang out sometime? What do you want to do?”
If magical girls are said to be born from positive desires like wishes, then witches are born from negative desires like curses.
Madoka/Gretchen ✩ Mami/Canderloro ✩ Homura/Homulilly ✩ Kyubey ✩ Kyoko/Ophelia
shit on the sims 4 all u want but u cannot deny is looks fucking gorgeous.
probably the best fanart ive ever seen
When someone says they don’t want to play The Sims 4 lol
i have been playing sims 4 for 5 hours straigjt andnid keep going but i am so tired omg
havent done a whole lot of gameplay i spent sooo much time building a house but rly the build mode is amazing. i could never build houses before w.o ragequitting but here i am with a cool new house for my sims.
i absolutely LOVE the graphics like eveything is soo pretty and i can run it w high settings without my comp shitting itself. in the sims 3 i had to run in low/med but sims 4 runs v smoothly.
havent run into any glitches so far and i havent rly tried all of the things in game but im liking it a lot so far. of course since it is only base game there isnt like a shit ton of stuff to do but when has any base sims game had a lot of content??
i rly like it ao far. yea.
- Refuses to sell his strongest potions
- Has no respect for knights
- Is a rascal
god I’m so sick and tired of people shitting on Potion Seller and conveniently forgetting that
- his potions are too strong for you traveler
- you can’t handle his potions,…